It’s not about how you look it’s about what you can do

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There’s a beautiful thing about Martial Arts, an important lesson that I wish to share with you that should be obvious but often isn’t. You can never trust appearances. Looks can be deceiving and rightly so. There is more to you than meets the eye. Whether you are tall, short, fat, skinny, a woman or a man does not reflect your abilities as a Martial Artist. This is why I feel it’s a very important tool for self-development and confidence. It’s an eraser of excuses. I can’t do this because of this, that or the other. I can’t do this until I look like this. Until I’m sure I’ll fit in and won’t draw attention. I’m not big and bulky, I’m not strong and I can’t be a fighter. These are all lies that we tell ourselves. In this millennial age, we constantly worry about our appearance. It begins to define us and what we think of ourselves. But when it comes down to battle, when it comes down to perfecting any skill or craft, this cannot be touched or affected by how you look, it’s about what you can do.



You’re not always going to love working on your passion- Do it anyway, love it in the end

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My new post is about realising that your passion is elevated and defined by the hard work you put in. It explores the dangers of buying into the assumption that you’re always going to love it because you won’t. But do it anyway!

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Don’t prove them wrong. Prove yourself RIGHT.

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Fat People at the Gym- All hail

Motivation in the Morning- When you’ve hit the snooze button

Motivation in the Morning- Get Up

We all know the feeling. You have great intentions. Don’t we all? The screech of your alarm drags you to life like some idiot scraping their nails across a chalkboard.

Yeah you’re going to change your life by waking up at an ungodly hour. Get shit done. Do that run/workout. But your duvet kingdom seems so much more reasonable. More sleep is better for me. I might as well sink back into my face full of hair and be fresh so I can do it tomorrow . Sunshine, you’re lying to yourself. 
The question is why should you get up? As all you motivational info junkies know. It’s often less your what and more your why that spurs you into action like the whip of a wet towel (why do men think this is a hilarious by the way? Like all of a sudden Spider-Man has a new weapon).
I don’t know how many of you are aware of this, but studies have shown that willpower is a limited resource. Cue famous paper on radishes and chocolate cookies. Some of you might be familiar with that one. This was an experiment conducted by Baumeister (if you want to check out the full article it’s at the bottom of the post) whereby there were two groups. One was told to eat radishes and the other chocolate cookies. They were then given puzzles to solve. What do you think happened? The radish eaters had to use self restraint and therefore their willpower before looking at the puzzles whilst the cookie group did not. The radish eaters persisted a lot less with the puzzles and gave up sooner. Shit day for them really.
So what’s my point?
What this means is that when you wake up your willpower stores are full, you have the most chance of actually being productive there and then. As you trundle along, making the effort to go through your day, doing things you have to do, this eats away at your willpower store like your cat when you leave your food on the table. That’s why it’s often so difficult to go to the gym, complete an assignment etc. After work.
Another little note about your brain. Your primordial brain only cares about survival and safety, that’s why the loud alarm wakes you up. But sensing no immediate danger it sees no need to get up and waste valuable energy. But your neocortex is the bit of the brain that makes you, you. The one making the decisions. 
When you hear that voice telling you not to get up. Recognise that this is a pre recorded survival instinct circuit playing in your brain and you don’t actually have to listen to it!! Get up. Ask yourself honestly, will there ever be a time you regret waking up early to workout? Didn’t think so.
Ok so all this looks at what happens if you get up or sleep. Bit binary, and life’s not like that. What if the worst happens and you hit snooze? There’s a blog post for that. Up next my friends.
What helps you to get up early? Comment below, share your thoughts.

Getting the Perfect Body- Why you must know you’re already there

So in the course of this blog I certainly intend to shed light on fitness, weight loss and conditioning.

But listen please.

The best place to start in the pursuit of the “perfect body” is understanding that you’re perfect already. Your body is an incredible machine with a high capacity to heal and be moulded into a tool for action accomplishing incredible things (dance, martial arts, gymnastics, climbing, swimming – you name it). It can also be moulded into any level of fitness and beauty you desire. Muscles can be grown and suddenly appear, fat can disappear. Miraculously without you even realising it, particularly when you live the martial way. It’s up to you!

You can work on it, refine it, focusing on process not product. This keeps you enjoying the ride and not giving up because you’re worried about the destination.

Think of your body in whatever state it’s in, as a beautiful slab of marble , obsidian? Pick any beautiful stone alright I’m not being prejudiced . All of that marble is beautiful and valuable right? Even though the intention of the sculptor is to chip away at it and create a certain image. Refine it.

See it as a process. And accept that the raw material you have to work with is already gorgeous. No one generally looks for a pile of shit and thinks. Yes. I want to turn this into a sculpture. You’re not turning something ugly into something beautiful. You’re turning something beautiful into something different and potentially more beautiful.

Begin with self love and your motivation will be positive, inspiring and self perpetuating.

As always I would love to hear your thoughts on this topic. See you later you walking works of art 😉

A Girl Fighter…..Ha , Why?

Why? I could turn around and smartly fire back why the f*** not?  But ultimately I promise my own theories based on my knowledge of evolutionary anthropology.

So fight or flight is the universal instinct. But for women I believe there is one dominating circumstance where aggression and fighting with great ferocity naturally manifests. Across almost all mammal if not animal species. The maternal instinct. The drive to protect your offspring at all costs. It’s a big investment for us . Nine months off the market, huge investment when born etc. (FYI have no kids and in my mind think I’ll always be too young for them).

Competition for resources as well though gathering saw a bit less action than hunting I reckon.

Being a female fighter and teaching women martial arts is a wonderfully empowering thing. In this day and age, traditional gender stereotypes still exist. When you’re a fighter you have the confidence to know you are there to perform your craft regardless of that. Defying convention. You are an equal. And everyone is human. The big, scary, tough guys aren’t so big and scary anymore. They’re your friends, your brothers and they view you with respect. Because you follow that same martial code. And you don’t have to sacrifice your femininity to conform to what the stereotype of a fighter is either.

I’ve heard it all “aren’t you worried about your pretty face?”, “sure that’s a good idea?”, “why would you want to do that?”, “oh bet you could beat me up”. All born out of ignorance.

I want girls not to feel too scared to pursue something because it’s dominated by men or doesnt fit the image she has of herself. Life is not one size fits all.

That is just as true for boys who fall in love with something in a field dominated by women. JUST AS VALID.

Fighter living is all about not accepting boundaries, not accepting stereotypes.

Accepting everyone. Respect is key. 

Has anyone reading this experienced stereotyping or fear of pursuing people because it’s not what they’re “supposed” to do? It’s not “natural”? Please share your message, leave a comment.